Inner Child

Ever wondered, “Why is it that I keep attracting exactly the kind of people in my life that I cannot stand”  or “Why is it that I cannot seem to be doing anything right” or some such feeling….well actually it’s time to wake up and well do smell the coffee by all means HOWEVER  more importantly please look into the mirror. I say this gently because when I started my journey into expansion, I also came to this stage where I had to look within because all that was around just stopped making any sense. All answers felt half-baked or totally off the charts…I mean how is it possible that everytime a certain kind of people or events are picked to present themselves conveniently (not so for me) in my life like clockwork. No matter how hard I tried to make sense of it, well sense became the proverbial “lost cause” till I came across this lady who said….”Well have you thought that you attract these people and events into your life” and even though it felt like a bulldozer flattened me out..something inside me said….”Well, it has to be that…isn’t it..I meant how else could they be programmed to happen so precisely?” so some long years ago…..I started my journey……I have to tell you folks that the initial shock is the hardest to take………..As I completely believe that there are no accidents, if you are reading this today…it is because you are ready to start your journey of changing your life and actually understanding your power of creating every event in your life.

We all have this inner child inside of us who actually impacts or rather creates all events of our Adult life. If we have grown up feeling criticised or controlled too much then we will attract people who will continue to criticize us or control us. It is because in this case we create a belief that we are not good enough or intelligent enough to make our own decisions hence we attract situations or people who create exactly this reality. Please understand that at an intellectual level we might be blissfully unaware of this phenomenon. We might have a fair share of animosity against such situations or people however it is like being trapped in a vicious circle till we realize that WE HAVE THE POWER to actually change this painful reality.

The funny part is that even our defense mechanisms are actually created like this; we create the facades of anger or create shells because somewhere while growing up we found out that works for us in some way to escape a harsh word or a particularly unwelcome scenario. So next time when we are faced with a similar situations, our body goes into an auto-pilot mode and creates a reality which is familiar to our inner child and which is safe…well pseudo safe.

Once we understand the deep inherent connection between the current state of our life and the state of our inner child….we can start working on improving that relationship.

Once you come to this stage, I will recommend you to work with a guide or an Inner Child Counselor as sometimes the memories can be traumatic or disturbing to an extent that it becomes difficult to work on it by yourself.

One thing that I can tell you is when you start connecting with your Inner Child, life would be more beautiful than it is now.

Just to start you off…..everyday spend a little time to close your eyes, connect to that child within and tell that child all…literally everything that you’ve ever wanted to hear………shower her/him with all the praise, love, approval and appreciation………….and even if you cannot connect immediately with your Inner Child right away….trust me it’s ok….it’s your intent which will do the trick.

Just tell that beautiful child inside of you who is actually “YOU”…………I love and Approve of “YOU”………………

Happy days all of you ❤ !!

Love and Light

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Shadows

We cannot ignore the shadows, they will follow us everywhere…so let’s ensure that we are aware of our shadows. The more aware we are of our shadows, the sooner we will be able to deal with them and the lesser they will be able to scare us. After all it’s the way our mind defines shadows…. as “Monsters”  which scare us or as “Shadow-Shapes” we can play around with.

Speaking of shadows, we also have shadows of our past, now…. these could be from when we were toddlers or young kids…..what’s worth knowing is, do they render us hopeless, scared, caught up in a frenzy of emotions because if they do then it is imperative for us to remove them. Just to give you an analogy, our grave fear or heights actually might be a shadow from the past where may be we saw, felt or heard something that had such a huge impact on us that it manifested as a phobia. We have a unique internal reference code system that translates all of our external experiences and stacks them in our mind. Each Neuron in our brain has a charge and that is what creates our patterns, behaviors, beliefs….well pretty much our life trajectory. Awareness is the key to releasing ourselves from patterns which adversely affect us. It is interesting to note how some kids are terrified of the boogeyman under the bed while others find it a nice cover when playing hide and seek.

More often than not fear is an absence of the “known” rather than the presence of the “unknown”. When our left brain is unable to analyse or find logic in any given situation, it resorts to creating an alternate reality which then becomes our belief or it accepts the reality as presented by someone else without really determining it’s validity….this is especially true for our formative years; most of our beliefs are created during this time. Also a huge factor is what we absorb from our environment, what we are told as kids, the behavior we witnessed of people around us while growing up….everything that we see. Whether we remember it consciously or not, it gets stored in our mind and it moulds our lives. One way or the other, every waking moment we are absorbing a serious amount of information and our mind processes it and stores it. What we choose to bring to our consciousness and resolve, release or completely accept is upto us.

What needs to be mentioned is that we certainly do have good beliefs as well in life which are the corner stones of our success. It is the limiting beliefs that we need to be able to remove from our system. Now the good news is, no matter what the shadow / belief is, how it was formed or how debilitating it is, it can be removed from our psyche. Today we are so much more aware of the power with in. Our consciousness has expanded so much; whatever we need to know can be accessed from within. It is like having our very own Master-Key to unlock the most complex of locks. All we need to do is be curious and observant of our own thought patterns, behavior antics and reactions; the next step is to question it….now this is what cracks the foundation of such beliefs, from there to finally shattering that belief structure which does not serve us in any way…any longer becomes a possibility.

Someone once told me that if you really want to find an answer, look at the right direction……….which is “With-In”

I have lived this and I got help when I finally decided to look within….. so one more thing that I firmly believe is that “When the student is ready, the Teacher appears”