The Perennial Debate: Anger v.s. Forgiveness!!!!!!!

Anger is such a limiting and acidic emotion…..everytime we feel anger, it leaves us drained of the vital life force, constantly erodes our peace of mind; manifests as ailments in our body….gives us insomnia.

With every appearance, it reduces our ability to see the truth, causes delusion of control when all it does is spins our emotions out of control.

Anger eats away the person who holds it in their hearts and minds, it is akin to holding a burning piece of coal in our bare palm expecting to throw it at someone else when all the while the hot coal burns the skin off of our hands.

When you allow anger to guide you, it clouds your judgement; it makes everything appear darker, more grim and more hurtful than it needs to be.

 It is addictive and like every addiction it tricks you to believe in the false sense of control which it creates in your mind……………it does not let you go free. It is like keeping your heart tied in a barbed wire…..it only hurts you.

v.s. 

Forgiveness on the other hand is so liberating and therapeutic; every time we allow Forgiveness into our hearts and lives…it washes away the acidic Anger and leaves in its wake….Peace and Freedom…….

When we choose to forgive, it under no circumstance should be equated to condoning the action; it actually means you are able to see the person and the action as two different things and deal with it accordingly without confusing one with the other.

Forgiving means you are no longer going to carry on the consequence of someone else’s action, you are no longer going to allow that event or person’s behavior keep you enslaved.

 Forgiveness allows you the choice to move on……it liberates you. Once you forgive the action, you can then choose to either allow the person a second chance or move on without a second glance however without the baggage.

Forgiveness is like Spring, with a riot of colors and fragrance. It fills you up with creativity, hope and beauty.

When the distinction is available to you, it only is a matter of time before you choose one; just remember your choice can enslave you or set you free……

Happy Choosing:))

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Angel message

Today’s message comes from the card deck by Diana Cooper. I have used a 3 card spread for today’s message.

The message is especially a beautiful one.

1st Card : “You are a Star”

The Angels see us as we are, a pure spirit having an earthly experience to learn and grow from. They tell us today that no matter what, they want us to know that they think “we are a star”. They want us to believe that wherever we are and whatever we are doing or have done in the past…..our magnificence is within us….waiting to be recognised by us. Once we truly learn a lesson, we can release the situation which was created to facilitate the learning. We can always ask our Angels to guide us and they will. Once we learn our lesson, we can move forward in Divine Love. Nothing is a punishable act by God……we punish ourselves because of our guilt, fear and anger which attracts more of this…..so to truly move on and change our lives…..we need to forgive ourselves and others. Do not forget, You are a Star……only…..may be you are not aware of your inner shine ……yet 🙂

This card signifies the immediate past and it tells us that incase we have been feeling low and unappreciated, the Angels believe that we are starts and there is infinite brilliance within us so we should start believing in our own brilliance ❤

2nd Card: “Self Worth is a magnetic quality”

I loved this card. It once again points us towards the power of the Law of Attraction. This card signifies that when we value ourselves for who we are and what we have then we will always attract people who will do the same. Self – worth is as essential to us as a healthy heart……..when our arteries gets blocked, it creates a lot of heart problems…likewise when our knowledge of our self-worth is blocked……it creates a lot of emotional (and some physical) problems. When we are in denial of our Self-Worth….everything that we do and everyone who we meet is tainted by this absence thereby creating events or relationships which are harsh and unhealthy for us. We attract people who demean us, use us and most importantly it makes us believe that we actually deserve this. On the contrary, when we are completely aware of our Self-Worth, we attract people and situations who continuosly reaffirms our belief in our brilliance who appreciates us for who we are. Today the Angels want us to know that we are very special and there is unlimited potential hidden within us. If someone is telling us otherwise, then we need to inspect our own belief system of ourself. What do we believe about ourself, do we often accept what does not make us happy and believe that we cannot get anything better than that? Do we believe that our destiny is filled with challenges? Do we believe that we deserve every bit of criticism intended for us? The Angels say that if you do believe in any of these statements then it is vitally important for you to go and stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself, “I LOVE AND APPROVE OF YOU, YOU ARE A MAGINIFICENT CREATION OF GOD” and say this as many times as you need to, allow all the tears to flow if they do………..say it till you start believing that YOU ARE STAR because you TRULY are 🙂 once you start believing this, the Angels promise you that your life will be a testimony of happiness and success.

This card is for your present.

3rd Card: “If you miss a tide, there will be another one waiting for you”

Unline what people have believed for eons, “time and tide wait for none”….Angels want you to know that if you miss a tide, there will be another one waiting for you. Life is filled with opportunities and chances; so do not get worried if you miss out on one chance because there will be many more. Just because you cannot see something, does not mean it doesn’t exist. They want you to know that they appreciate you taking your time before you do decide to listen to them or your inner voice…..they want you to know that it is OK to be scared and unsure and they especially want you to know that Confusion is a wonderful state to be in because when you are confused, it means you are considering options….else you would not be confused. They urge you to believe that there is always a way out, a better tomorrow…….you just need to believe in it. If you have been wondering if it is even worth  it or if it is too late, they want you to know that it is never too late because………………………….. if you miss a tide, THERE WILL BE ANOTHER ONE WAITING FOR YOU.

This is a card for your immediate future.

With much Love and Blessings

Your Angels

From Fear to Faith

 

I have learnt that at times no matter how hard I try to reign in my mind…it will run with fear instead of faith…….and I have also learnt that it is ok…………we need to feel our fears completely before we can say “You do not control me anymore, I release you” and in that moment we take our power back and actually release ourselves. It is during times of extreme duress that we are truly scared and it is also during times of extreme duress that we witness our true strengths………our true selves………….when we don ‘t have an option but to look into the mirror and see the fear in our eyes; it is in that moment that we know that only we can do something about it. These are the moments when a mother can lift the VAN off of her child…….these are the moments which connects us to our true selves. Every fear has the potential to paralyse us and every fear also has the potential to point us towards our true strengths……..We just need to allow it to happen………we are hardwired to feel Fear however we choose to witness and acknowledge our Strengths.

When we operate out of fear or obligation, we live a made up life, a life where our true worth is measured against how good an actor we are……….and when we hide behind our fears we are doing exactly the same thing. There is this scream which is locked inside us……..which wants us to scream out loud and declare “don’t be afraid of a little bit of pain….pleasure is on the other side” and I bet that every one of us has experienced at least one such situation in life where we faced our fears and said “You do not control me anymore, I release you now” and that moment is when the struggle ends and when the caterpillar turns into the butterfly.

It is ok to be afraid as long as you face your fears and then release them…….to live without fear is DIVINE ❤

 

Shadows

We cannot ignore the shadows, they will follow us everywhere…so let’s ensure that we are aware of our shadows. The more aware we are of our shadows, the sooner we will be able to deal with them and the lesser they will be able to scare us. After all it’s the way our mind defines shadows…. as “Monsters”  which scare us or as “Shadow-Shapes” we can play around with.

Speaking of shadows, we also have shadows of our past, now…. these could be from when we were toddlers or young kids…..what’s worth knowing is, do they render us hopeless, scared, caught up in a frenzy of emotions because if they do then it is imperative for us to remove them. Just to give you an analogy, our grave fear or heights actually might be a shadow from the past where may be we saw, felt or heard something that had such a huge impact on us that it manifested as a phobia. We have a unique internal reference code system that translates all of our external experiences and stacks them in our mind. Each Neuron in our brain has a charge and that is what creates our patterns, behaviors, beliefs….well pretty much our life trajectory. Awareness is the key to releasing ourselves from patterns which adversely affect us. It is interesting to note how some kids are terrified of the boogeyman under the bed while others find it a nice cover when playing hide and seek.

More often than not fear is an absence of the “known” rather than the presence of the “unknown”. When our left brain is unable to analyse or find logic in any given situation, it resorts to creating an alternate reality which then becomes our belief or it accepts the reality as presented by someone else without really determining it’s validity….this is especially true for our formative years; most of our beliefs are created during this time. Also a huge factor is what we absorb from our environment, what we are told as kids, the behavior we witnessed of people around us while growing up….everything that we see. Whether we remember it consciously or not, it gets stored in our mind and it moulds our lives. One way or the other, every waking moment we are absorbing a serious amount of information and our mind processes it and stores it. What we choose to bring to our consciousness and resolve, release or completely accept is upto us.

What needs to be mentioned is that we certainly do have good beliefs as well in life which are the corner stones of our success. It is the limiting beliefs that we need to be able to remove from our system. Now the good news is, no matter what the shadow / belief is, how it was formed or how debilitating it is, it can be removed from our psyche. Today we are so much more aware of the power with in. Our consciousness has expanded so much; whatever we need to know can be accessed from within. It is like having our very own Master-Key to unlock the most complex of locks. All we need to do is be curious and observant of our own thought patterns, behavior antics and reactions; the next step is to question it….now this is what cracks the foundation of such beliefs, from there to finally shattering that belief structure which does not serve us in any way…any longer becomes a possibility.

Someone once told me that if you really want to find an answer, look at the right direction……….which is “With-In”

I have lived this and I got help when I finally decided to look within….. so one more thing that I firmly believe is that “When the student is ready, the Teacher appears”

Message..!!

When We “Release”, We “Receive”

While I was doing an Angel Card reading today, what came to me were these words: “When you Release you Receive”…..”Beautiful” is what I thought it was. You cannot possible buy something new for yourself if your wardrobe is filled to capacity. You have to give things away for more things to come in. Likewise if you are already filled with thoughts and ideas, how can you make space for new ideas or thoughts to come in?

Best things in life happen when we surrender yet this innate need to control is what drives us. It is so difficult for us to fathom the fact that when we worry, we create more of it, when we panic we create more of it……. as they say…..energy flows where attention goes. I have met people who intellectually believe in the power of manifestation or what most people refer to as “Law of Attraction” however the essence of the concept is missing. For creation to take place, absolute belief is the base; when we question ourselves or ridicule ourself within, we are manifesting what we do not want. Universal laws are without prejudice or bias; it’s like the “Law of Gravity” where whoever falls from above………….falls; whether you are a life saver or a life taker…if you fall…you fall.

When we are worried about getting late, wanting to be on time would not help us; what we are thinking about the most is what we are creating whether we do it consciously or unconsciously hence we get late. The funny thing is after that happens we find people saying ” being positive doesn’t help” when in reality they were constantly worried about how late they were getting so those thoughts created the reality of getting late.